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Don’t You Forget About Me

dont you forgetLast week I was driving my husband’s car some thirty miles or so to run an errand while he stayed at home with our 2-year-old. I am very used to having the toddler in with me for any journey I make, which is mostly spent congratulating him on tractor or motorbike spots, crossing my fingers he falls asleep or lobbing food over my shoulder and singing nursery rhymes to keep him awake.

In short, I do not have much alone time in the car these days, or out of the car either, come to think of it.

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My Love You Are Loved: A Poem

my love poem

I don’t always relish everything or give you all I should

And sometimes on the tougher days, I lose sight of what’s good

But just know that when you need me – if you’re tiny or you’re tall

I will always be there any time that you might call

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6IZ1x858hF70TwhjeNCaPUCf9ODfbNH4Ato5690SUW0Despite whisking their contestants by private jet to beautiful Australia and paying them bags of gold, I’m A Celebrity Get Me Out of Here is widely considered one of the tougher reality gigs for our good old celebs. As well as the usual fights, dramas and bids for attention that are rife in reality shows, these lot also have to contend with showering on camera, sleeping amongst scary animals (no I absolutely don’t mean John Lydon), and gorging on creepy crawlies.We’d never get that from Gregg Wallace on Celebrity MasterChef – at least not so far, anyway. (Should I patent the idea in case?)

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Love & Tantrums: Note from a Toddler

tantrums and loveSomething has changed recently – you’ve felt it and of course I have too. Our days together are often unpredictable and the routine you crafted around me so carefully – the net which kept both of us safe – has crumbled. You don’t know where you stand all of a sudden and you feel a bit helpless. But remember, I feel this way, too.

I am sure it must be confusing when one moment I am happily smiling and the next I am yelling and screaming at you, crying so much it makes my voice wobble and my breathing shuddery. You’re shocked and I am in too deep to stop it – I don’t know how to stop it – and you don’t either.

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An Open Letter to Pinterest

pinterestDear Pinterest & Co.

I think we need to talk.

For a while, I thought it was me, not you. I tried to change my ways; alter my behaviour to meet your approval. Obviously though, this was neither right nor healthy.

But your pictures were so awesome.

Your ideas so great.

Your cleverly shaped vegetables delicious looking.

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Distraction Techniques for a Happier Baby

distraction techniques for a happier baby 2Today’s guest post, complete with brilliant illustrations, is from My Kid Doesn’t Poop Rainbows

As the Baby creeps ever closer to toddlerhood we are beginning to experience fits of whining and some epic meltdowns. We have discovered through trial and error that words and physical comfort do little but prolong the agony (ours probably more than his) and that the best technique is distraction.

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Full Circle

full circleThere’s a part of me that can’t believe I’m writing this, that it’s happened – that we have become one of the lucky ones. Life can feel cruel sometimes and fate so unfair, but then there are little rays, gifts. There are miracles.

And I know this because I’m pregnant again.


I know!

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photo 1 (7)Children must go through almost a million phases, particularly in the early years. Sometimes I could barely get used to my baby’s latest pattern before he had moved on to a different one! And some of these – especially around sleep, settling, behaviour or needing more attention than we are able to give – can feel never-ending at the time.

But of course they do pass, all of them. And when we look back at testing moments, at days that seem to stretch on forever, we mostly remember them differently: fondly, with love. They are just moments after all – moments that will pass – moments that become memories sandwiched in our hearts, reminding us how much our children have changed and grown, and how we have, too.

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A guest post on the importance and upsides of imperfection, by Talya at Motherhood: The Real Deal

In today’s world, we have very high expectations of ourselves. We’re always shooting for the stars, obsessing about this, that or the other in that everything-has-to-be-just-so kinda way. Yet how many of us have uttered the words “there’s no such thing as perfect” time and time again?

It’s no wonder that when embarking on motherhood, so many women put such great amounts of pressure on themselves from the very outset, and as a result become a walking neurotic blob. After all, it’s probably the greatest challenge of our life so far, and we want to do it 100% right… right?

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Then & Now – 80s Vs the Teenies* Baby

then and nowI know my mum can’t be the only one doing the odd double-take and scoff at the wealth of baby paraphernalia available compared to when she was raising my sisters and me back in the 70s and 80s. Not to mention all the stuff we do with babies now – which our forefathers no-doubt think is bordering on the ridiculous – and it is, surely? I’m not criticising the choices we modern parents make, I bought into most of it myself but, Baby Rhythm – really? They can’t even flipping walk yet!

Things certainly seem over-complicated now, yet I’m not sure how I would even begin to parent without the double-edged sword of Doctor Google or a 3-in-1 travel system to whizz around in easily. And as for getting my grocery shopping done without the help of Click & Collect – forget about it.

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Childbirth – Natural Vs Medicated

a word on birthKatie Hopkins has declared that natural childbirth – sans any pain relief – makes a woman, err, more of a woman. I’m not even sure if what she says is actually her honest opinion these days, or more a desire to keep herself in the public eye. Anyway, as this subject has bothered me before, I’ve bitten.

By natural, she means a vaginal delivery, and that women should “Push it out, not wimp out.” I imagine to most pregnant women, a straight-forward vaginal delivery sounds great – after all, let’s remember a Caesarean is major invasive surgery and certainly not the easy option; but when nature doesn’t take the right turn, isn’t it good that there are other, ‘non-natural’ means of delivering a baby safely?

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